Friends who were there to witness what happened still have their mouths hanging open with surprise and people I tell the break-up to think it’s so dramatic it’s made up! Anyway here is part 2:
One night while I was with T on a date, my phone rang and it was a private number. Everyone knows private numbers = trouble. But everyone also knows curiosity = pick up. I picked up and a female demanded I put T on the phone. Naturally I got pissy because you can’t call MY phone, hide behind a private number, act rude and expect me to take it. I gave her a piece of my mind before I passed the phone to T. When he said ‘Hello’, she hung up. Red flag! I asked him who it was, and he said he had no idea and that maybe it was my friends playing pranks on me. None of my friends are losers to do that, but I eventually dropped the topic because I wasn’t in the mood to argue.
A week later: My phone rings and this time a number showed up. I picked up and whoever it was hung up. When I called back right away, a female answered and claimed she’d called a wrong number. Joker (a good guy friend who is a hardcore player) told me it was ‘the other chick’ and either she was trying to ‘gauge’ what type of person I was, or she was vindictive and got pleasure out of tormenting me. He told me to be ‘nicer’ to her if I wanted answers. Following day while at work, the same number called me three times. I didn’t pick up because I take my professional life seriously, and taking emotional calls at work is career suicide. The mistake I made was to text T telling him that after work I was coming over to his house to get to the bottom of these calls.
After work, I went to his house. First thing: took his phone and dialed the ‘mysterious’ number to see if it was saved and a name would show up. Nothing came up (obviously he would’ve had the chance to delete it because of my text). Second thing: called the number on speakerphone. When the female picked up I asked her who she was and why she kept calling me if it was ‘a wrong number’. She got all rude, and after going at it back and forth, I realized we were going in circles, so I hung up. I asked T if he recognized the voice or the number and he told me he didn’t. At this point I was fed up, so I left. I told him never to call me again unless he had solid answers for me. Of course he called me on my way home but at the point I had lost all patience.
Next morning at 6am, I woke up to a private number calling me. Annoyed I picked up and told the female that if she wasn’t going to have a ‘woman to woman’ conversation, she had no business calling me. That’s when she started talking. She claimed she called the day before (while I was at work) to tell all, but I hadn’t picked up. T had told her after that I’d call her that night (guess he knew because of the text I sent him) and if she said a word, he would beat her up (and she started crying). Obviously that made me skeptical because T NEVER shown violent traits towards me… even when we argued, he'd NEVER called me names or been disrespectful. I listened either way. Turns out they met two months after T and I started dating and had an on-off relationship since – most of the time they were broken up. She claimed he abused her emotionally and physically, and that their relationship was ‘friends with benefits’. He refused to bring her around his family and they had never really gone out on dates. She claimed there was a time when he had broken up with her saying he had found the love of his life (me), and that he couldn’t go on cheating… but weeks after, he said me and him broke up. Her story became more believable when she started told me things about him few would know. Her time lines also matched up. She named specific events that had happened, and that she knew there was ‘someone’ else because weekends and evenings he suddenly became impossible to get in touch with (that’s when he was with me). The most disturbing part: she named specific Sundays and asked if I had gone to church with T those Sundays. T and I had this thing where we’d go to his church together on Sundays, but on some Sundays I’d choose to either go with fam to my regular church, or not go at all. Turns out those Sundays I didn’t go he took her to the SAME church…. (I know right?!!!!).
She asked if I was the girl she told off on the phone months before when I called him or if I was the girl who sent him a text asking him if he was going to ‘propose to someone else in Niagara’ - I said ‘no’ and she said that meant there were more females in the picture. She claimed a month or so before, he had started talking marriage and moving out with her… and to top it all off, that she was pregnant! We talked on the phone for hours, and at the end, she asked me not to tell him we spoke because he would kill her (literally).
I remember for days after that I was a walking zombie… shocked wouldn’t even begin to describe it. I didn’t shed a tear for weeks, and when I did, it was over the situation, and not over him (not sure if that makes sense?). Obviously I didn’t believe everything she said, but there was def some truth to it. How could someone have two sides that are such opposites? I asked Joker what to make of it all, and he told me it’s obvious I was ‘wifey’… the one he wanted to be with permanently and that’s why I got the ‘princess’ treatment. Joker claimed the other chick(s) were his side hos that he didn’t put much effort into and that’s why (combined with my naiveté) I never caught onto his cheating (he claims guys get caught when they go the ‘extra’ mile for the side chick: for example, if he goes the ‘extra mile’ and takes her out on dates.. he’d most likely be caught or if he went the ‘extra mile’ and bothered with consistent texts and calls.. he’s most likely get caught etc) . Joker said T probably started with the marriage/moving out thing with the side chick because he sensed that I wasn’t there to stay and he wanted a plan B before leaving me (if he did), or he wanted to keep the side chick around by making empty promises.
I’ll have to do another post because this is only the beginning – it gets more dramatic. ***Part three coming soon with the confrontation, and what happened after****
